No one said being a mom is easy. But it’s hands-down the most rewarding job we’ll be blessed enough to have in this lifetime. Here’s why motherhood is the best thing ever…
We gain a deeper understanding of our own moms.
We now marvel at what our own mothers did, with far less support and resources at their fingertips than we have today. Our journey helps us to see that sometimes they “winged” it, too. Not everything they said or did was textbook perfect. Like us, they’re human. But they love(d) us just as fiercely as we now love our own children. We have the luxury of looking back to learn from their triumphs and heed their mistakes, honing us into the kind of mothers we can only hope to be. And like us, they prayed that we would one day recognize the sacrifice, the intention and the love they poured into every minute of every day. We do, Mom.
Motherhood puts all the pre-mom B.S. into perspective.
We don’t have time to obsess over our own idiosyncrasies when we’re truly focused on caring for our kids. All the worry about trivial relationships, work drama, material possessions and whatever else before motherhood seem so insignificant compared to what life throws at us now. As moms, we learn not to sweat the small stuff and to appreciate the little things. Everyone tells us it all goes too fast. And the longer we slay this motherhood gig, the more we understand just how true—and heart-wrenching—that revelation is.
We’re in on all the mom jokes.
We get the ones about drinking wine all the time, wearing yoga pants, not being able to go to the bathroom without an audience and how we can make our kids angry just by saying “good morning.” Being a mom is a hard and funny business. We live it every day. If we don’t laugh at ourselves every once in a while—and have each other to laugh along with—we just might lose it. There’s a reason those funny mommy memes go viral—they help us realize that all this crazy is normal. And, man, do we take comfort in that.
We value family more than ever.
Grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles and friends whose bonds are as strong as blood—we appreciate and adore these people and the role they play during this incredible time in our lives. They sing to our kids at birthday celebrations, sit through school plays, take our children here and there, and are one heck of a cheering section on the sidelines. We love watching the relationship between our child and them bloom into something uniquely theirs. Every moment is a special memory our kids will carry and we will always cherish.
If we don’t want to do something or go somewhere, we can pull the mom card—no questions asked.
“It’s been a crazy week”… “I just need a night at home”…“I really need to a few hours to get stuff done”…“Sorry, we have plans”…“I haven’t showered in a week.” Our friends who don’t have kids usually don’t question our excuses for why we can’t commit or back out of something last minute. (And our best ones never give up on us.) The friends that do have children? They totally get it.
We get the chance to see the world through the eyes of a child.
We took it for granted the first time around, but our kids give us the opportunity to once more to see this big beautiful ball of green and blue for the amazing place it can be. Rainbows, running through a sprinkler, Santa Claus, bubbles, lemonade stands, strangers who become best friends after one game of tag—a world of wonder, discoveries, possibilities and infinite fun. When we’re around our kids, we can’t help but quiet our inner cynics and don our rose-colored glasses.
We finally understand unconditional love.
It’s a love like no other we’ve ever experienced before becoming a mother. It’s unwavering, powerful and selfless. It’s a love without limitations, boundaries or conditions. It’s a love that’s instinctual and eternal. It’s not always easy and it’s not always sunshine and roses. Sometimes it’s raw and exposed. But it’s in those murky times—the times we love our children when it’s hard or when it hurts or when it feels unrewarding—that exposes a beautiful bond that can only be described as “Divine.”
And we get so much love in return.
No one loves us like our kids. When they are little, they cheer and run to us the moment we walk through the door. When they are older, they confide and run to us when they need sound advice they can count on. The homemade cards, the macaroni necklaces, the bouquets of dandelions, the hand-drawn pictures, the unexpected notes and text messages, the offers to help around the house, the snuggles on the couch—it sometimes feels like so much our hearts will explode. But we’ll take it all.
We do it all for the snuggles.
And for the soft baby curls against our cheeks. We do it for the little arms around our necks, the smooched-up lips when they lean in for a kiss and the bedtime cuddles, when we can’t help but fall asleep ourselves next to their warm, sweet-smelling bodies. We cherish every time they slip their tiny hand into ours or whisper a ticklish secret in our ears. Every touch trips something deep in our soul and takes us to a place of contentment only a mother can understand.
We experience deep friendships with others in the trenches.
You are part of a “village” now. When you become a mom, you join a support system like no other. Need an ear? Let’s get coffee. Advice? We’ll try and give you our best. A shoulder to cry on? Come on in for a hug, sister, we’ve all been there. The moms you want in your tribe don’t pass judgement, always have your back and know how to keep it real. They’re not about competing, they’re there for the comradery.
We get a front-row seat to life.
From first words to first dates, watching the tiny baby you raised become their own free-thinking person is about as incredible an opportunity as it gets. Personalities and talents are unwrapped before our very eyes. We relish in our child’s successes and watch them carefully as they try to figure out the tough stuff. What kind of teenager will they be? Where will they go to college? Will they become an artist, teacher or engineer? Will they have children of their own? Having a hand in molding a creative, compassionate, honorable, authentic, generous human that is a positive force in this world is truly a gift from God.
It’s true, motherhood makes you a better person.
If you’ve ever waited for your child to get ready when you’re running late, you truly know patience is a virtue. If you’ve ever sat up all night with a kid who has the stomach flu, you’ve learned resilience. If you’ve ever waited in worry for your child to come home safely after taking the car out, you’ve practiced faith. If you’re a mom, chances are you’ve earned many badges along the way—perseverance, understanding, empathy, bravery and confidence to name a few. Motherhood gives us a sense of purpose like no other. It gives us strength to make the tough choices, the right choices. And it drives us to be the very best we can be—for them.
© Rachael Liska, happyhearthappyhome.com
LIKE WHAT YOU READ? FIND MORE OF ME…
On Facebook: facebook.com/HappyHeartHappyHome/
On Pinterest: pinterest.com/rachaelHHHH/
On Insta: @happyhearthappyhome
On Twitter: @HapHeartHapHome