Dear Teen of Mine,
You ask me, “When am I old enough to date?” I wish I had an easy answer for you. But there’s no magic number. Like most things in life, the timeline for when you’re ready to date is different for everyone. But let me offer you some guidance and a bit of wisdom from a heart that’s been broken more than a time or two. You might know you’re ready when…
You are just wise enough for your age to see through empty words and self-serving promises.
You are patient enough not to make impulsive decisions about the words or actions you share with another.
You meet someone who is more interested in your brains than your body.
You are self-assured enough to know that you don’t have to play games to win the affection of or manipulate another.
You meet someone who is comfortable shaking my hand and looking into my eyes instead of staring down at their phone.
You respect yourself enough to understand that you are a gift and not something to be given away freely.
You have enough confidence in yourself that you don’t need to seek validation from another.
You meet someone who genuinely wants to make you smile.
You have plenty of your own interests and hobbies so that a new relationship doesn’t become the only thing that’s important to you.
You are savvy enough about social media to know that whatever you post about your relationships will follow you forever.
You meet someone who gladly gives you their time, who shows up when you need them most, instead of someone who throws around lip service, empty gestures or flashy gifts.
You are surrounded by a tribe of trusted friends, whose advice you heed, that you won’t leave behind for a crush.
You take the time to care of your physical appearance--not for someone else but because you know you’re important enough to put the time in.
You meet someone who isn’t into bragging about their dating life to boost their own fragile ego.
You are open enough to come to me with any cringe-worthy questions or not keep secrets that you may later regret.
You are strong enough not to let someone else’s issues make you second guess your actions.
You meet someone who celebrates you, not someone looking to change you.
You have just enough resilience not to let rejection break you into a million pieces.
You have just enough foresight to understand this probably isn’t your “forever” person.
You meet someone who’s more interested in talking rather than texting.
You have enough good judgement to know that your relationships directly and irrevocably impact your reputation.
You have enough backbone to set boundaries and say “no” when something doesn’t feel right.
And, finally, you meet someone who thinks you’re as amazing and worthy of so much love and happiness as I do.
© Rachael Liska, happyhearthappyhome.com
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